[{"p1":{"lastName":"Manson"},"l1":[{"lastName":"Manson"},{"lastName":"Mansony"}]},{"p1":{"lastName":"revah"},"l1":[{"lastName":"Manson"},{"lastName":"Mansony"}]}]

db.collection.aggregate([{$match:{$expr:{$not:{$in:["$p1.lastName","$l1.lastName"]}}}}])